Crumb § Harris Family, Inc.
As you read this, it is my wish that you:
1. Are a Good Black Man
2. Have a Good Black Man
3. Will be blessed with a Good Black Man soon
Good Black Men are indeed all around us. We pass them on the streets, in the malls and the halls at work. Mostly they arent recognized, because we don't know what a Good Black Man really looks like. He usually isn't flashy enough or rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a Lexus. He might not have a body like Tyson with a Denzel face. But, as you mature, you realize it's better to find someone who's got your back rather than someone who turns your head.
A GBM doesn't agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. He doesn't just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He doesn't declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, and yada, yada he is. He doesnt have to because it shows. He has his own opinions and yours may clash, but he doesn't have to degrade you to prove he's right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same.
A GBM is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that you don't live to catch him doing something wrong so you can declare, Aha! I knew you were a dog!!
A GBM isn't insecure about his woman having great achievements. In fact he is her number one supporter and becomes disappointed with her when she begins to lose herself, for the sake of not hurting his feelings, or just want to make him happy. His happiness comes with seeing her excel in her dreams and accomplishing her goals. For as she excels and is exalted, a good woman will bring her GBM right along with her.
A GBM doesn't necessarily have to always give you a huge birthday or Valentine's gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to him and makes his woman feel loved. Don't judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy-tale. You'll miss out on your own fairy tale by buying into the myth that our men are no good. It's just not true.
Good Black Men, we salute you, and thank you for who you are and all you've done.